One of the hardest things for any person to do is to separate/divorce from their spouse. Support is essential (see list of websites). In general where people are getting separated/ divorced the assets are split equally. Counselling should be considered in the context of healing the relationship and if this is not possible mediation should be considered with a view to formalising the separation/divorce with agreement to be reached on arrangements for children and property.
With successful mediation a formal legal Deed of Separation can be drawn up. Where parties are unable to agree then legal separation/divorce proceedings may be the only option. These type of court proceedings tend to be very difficult on both parties.
The primary concern of the courts will be the welfare of any children and proper provision for both parties. In many instances parties may be able to agree a settlement with the assistance of their solicitors. Parties may be entitled to legal aid in respect of court proceedings (see www.legalaid.ie).